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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could, we can afford it. But I don’t want to! Are these valid reasons not to want to:

- I do better with a routine, structure, challenge. With SAH I would have to create that myself, and honestly I don’t know many whose routines I covet
- We have lots of help but if I quit I would feel guilty about keeping the help and so I would have to do a lot of grunt work that I don’t enjoy
- DH and grandparents are very involved with the kids and again, if I quit I would feel guilty about asking for their help and instead manage the kids myself most of the time. Would that be bad for them though?

The only things to balance against those are getting more time with the kids and more leisure time. I can flaunt my martyrdom by denying myself the second, but I feel guilty about not wanting the first more - at least not enough to give up those other things![/quote]l

Omg, your thought process is primitive. You do not have to get rid of the help. You do not

1.  If you have some intelligence, you can create structure with enough flexibility built in it. 
2. You do not have to get rid of the help. The help is there to lessen the burden on the entire family. 
3. You should continue to have your DH and grandparents be involved with the kids, but now they should be doing a lot more family time or fun events and activities.

Being a good Sahm  requires a lot of executive skills and planning to not only take care of kids and household but your entire family ( and that includes you).  But since you have not figured it out, I  think you should continue to work, maybe?[/quote]

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