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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will likely be one of these people. 
I’m in therapy. My issue is I just don’t like anyone enough. The few that I did like, it didn’t work out situationally or they weren’t interested in anything serious at the time.

I talk to a therapist because I wondered if it was something about my sexuality. Am I ace? Demisexual? I don’t think so, because I have had sex that I really enjoyed, but I don’t enjoy sex for sex’s sake if I’m not 200% into someone. And I just have tons of hangups. The littlest thing will turn me completely off and make me never want to be intimate with a certain man again. It can be totally innocuous, like the sound of his voice or a phrase he uses or if he burps with food breath or something, or if he initiates sexual intimacy too early or too late, I just get immediately and irrevocably physically turned off. I want to not be so picky and I want to give different kinds of men a chance, but you can only date for so long before you realize that sex is just never going to happen because of this-or-that thing that makes you slam the brakes.

I suppose I could consider asexual men, but then I know I would never get sex even though I do actually want it, having had it and liked it, and I have never met an ace man that I was attracted to in any way.[/quote]

My 38 yo friend sounds a lot like you, super sensitive to small things, not easily turned on, unless she is super in love.
She is like that princess and the pea. She may well end up single at 50. But I am now watching her date someone who can get her excited in bed though she is feeling like he is beneath her. I am really curios if she settles for him! [/quote]

The princess and the pea… sounds just like me. If I want to have sex, everything has to be JUST perfect. Or I have to be madly in love. I haven’t been madly in love for a long, long time. And I’m trying to give men I date a fair chance, men that are kind and honest and at least good friend material. I’m trying to find something about a guy that I like enough to get me going or to let myself fall in love with him, but that takes SO long, and by that time he’s usually lost interest because I just won’t get intimate. [/quote]

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