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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds fake and forced [/quote]

When DH makes grilled cheese, salad and tomato soup for me and the kids, I do not lavish him with praise as if he is a Voltaggio brother gracing me with a five-course tasting menu. But hey, he got home first, he helped the kids with homework, and I get to roll in the house and sit down to dinner. I appreciate that. I say thank you.

I honestly think it might take more effort for me to not thank something than to acknowledge what they did for me.[/quote]

So you say thanks for dinner, thanks for being home for the kids, thanks for helping with homework?[/quote]

Every single day, every single time? No. In that scenario, I would definitely say thanks for the dinner. But I would say we thank each other at least 80-90% of the time for routine chores, and always for dinner.

For example, my husband is working late tonight. He knows I will be doing pickup, dinner, homework, and bedtime with the kids. When I reminded them to give him extra hugs because they will be asleep when he gets home tonight, he said, "Thank you for taking care of everything tonight." Last night, I thanked him for carrying three loads of laundry from the basement up to our bedroom. Gratitude is a good habit that we have.

I mean, you can keep arguing with me about it, but yeah. That's how it is in our marriage. And it won't change just because you're trying to poke holes.  :lol: [/quote]

You sound super defensive… wild.

I’m not arguing just wondering… but yea I dont need that much validation and it’s also okay that you do.[/quote]

Awwww, you've been raised to think that simple gratitude, manners and politeness are seeking and giving "validation." It's OK. We can't choose how well we were raised. [/quote]

Imagine this I have a different love language … your’s is word of affirmation, mine is not… and you need Xanax.[/quote]

I answered the OP's question. You tried to poke and prod and get more out of me to try to make it seem that somehow, my husband and I showing basic politeness and gratitude to one another is forced or absurd or what have you. Clearly you are the defensive one, who is realizing what a jerk you are for not saying thank you to your own spouse once in a while. Have a great day.

And by the way, it's "yours" not "your's".[/quote]

Thanks for your very complete answer and also that’s for the spelling correction and thanks for typing clearly and thanks for using correct grammar and punctuation and thanks for the response.

Did I miss one? I don’t want you to go through the day feeling I didn’t express gratitude

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