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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can completely relate to feeling resentful of time away from the house and the kids, even if it’s a work trip. You’re not being unreasonable. It’s hard to feel like you never get “adult time” to relax without worrying about the kids. I’d ask him to talk to her about staying at your house to help him for a few days while you do something with friends or by yourself. [/quote]

Ummm, for this upcoming trip, he and MiL should continue with their plans and she should arrange for care coverage for certain days/times while he is gone.

When my twins were 3 and under and DH had to be gone over the weekend, I would hire a mother's helper - there were about three young teens in the neighborhood who wanted to put their Red Cross sitter credentials to work. I never left them alone (leave the house) with the helper, but she would entertain them while I put food together, took a shower, etc. Sometimes I would hire an older sitter for Saturday night and meet friends, go shopping, etc.

Maybe ask MiL in the future, but be prepared that she may say no unless she craves a chance to spend more time with her grandkids.[/quote]
I didn’t say she should tell him to cancel the trip or ask him mom not to come. If she doesn’t want to come help her son for a few days, she can say no and he can manage alone, like she does. Simple. [/quote]

My bad. Thought you were saying she should ask for the MiL to come for this upcoming trip.

If the MiL can come in the future and help out when the wife takes some alone time, that's great. But I agree that he can also manage alone as his wife does. Never really had this issue with DH. When our kids were little, he worked FT and I worked PT, but he pretty much understood that we both needed breaks/alone time. [/quote]

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