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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's had tons of executive function coaching, is medicated for ADHD, and all of it just "doesn't work"?

What that sounds like to me is a lack of parenting, and I am generally not a person to say it's a lack of parenting. The things you've done before got her through high school and into college, but it's clear that they did not build any skills to manage on her own. You need to have clear goals and requirements. Job for XYZ hours by X date, contribute $XXX/mo to "pay rent" on her room, which can be saved for actual rent later if OP doesn't need it for something else. If you are trying college again, having expectations about it is reasonable, but the expectations need to be geared toward her developing skills, not just getting through a class or a semester or a degree.[/quote]
I am not OP but give me a break. Why is everything blame the parent now? Does the child bear any responsibility? Of course they do. 
I have a similar child. I have three other children that I also parented that have had no issues. Please try to “manage” a 19 year old’s studies when you can’t even have access to their grades unless they allow you to.  Good parenting is not just shrugging and saying “oh take as long as you need to graduate”. In our household I’m paying four year of undergrad for four kids. If they can’t figure it out, then they can pay the rest. Kids have no personal responsibility anymore.  I think what the Siberia poster was hinting at is Affluenza.  [/quote]

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