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[quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry you are going through this OP. It's so hard to see your child take the wrong path.

My suggestion: Listen to what he says, tell him you respectfully disagree, ask him gentle questions, but don't argue with him.

I have an HFA kid who sometimes spews odd stuff he reads on the internet about women. Things like women only want to date men who are rich, which he had to have picked up online or from one of his friends.

I listen and tell him when I agree with something (anything) he says, but I don't try to argue him out of his "ideas" which change by the next time I speak with him.

Often I'll hear him echoing something I've said to him previously (I never point that out!), so I feel like I have some unconscious effect on his thinking.

You could say neutral things to your DS like "relationships are complicated" and "not all women are alike" stuff that sounds so simple and obvious, but are completely omitted from the black/white thinking that Tate and his ilk espouse.

Getting his father involved may be helpful, but make certain you and your ex are on the same page. If you each send inconsistent messages to your DS, that will complicate things.

My HFA son has never had a serious girlfriend, likely because of his rigid thinking and poor communication and social skills. I try very hard to keep communicating with him so that he always hears another voice. He reads a lot on instagram and believes all that crap, which is upsetting. His younger siblings are the total opposite (they are both NT), but ASD kids are vulnerable.

I'm not suggesting your DS is ASD, but he's an adolescent, and all adolescents are vulnerable in one way or another because they are going through so many changes.

Stay strong and calm when your DS spews nonsense, OP. Just keep talking with him.

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