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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I think the right thing to do here etiquette-wise is to graciously receive it and then ignore it.

If she asks you about it later, she’s now in the wrong, etiquette-wise. It’s not appropriate to follow up on whether you’re using a gift like that. You say something like “we have been so busy lately, I haven’t had time for any writing at all. Thank you again for the gift. We appreciate you thinking of us.”

If she goes on past that point, she’s even more in the wrong etiquette-wise and you just repeat that script over and over.

Now, who knows if being in the right etiquette-wise is worth anything in your life and family dynamics. I’m inclined to agree with the PPs that if it’s important to your husband to mollify your MIL, he should do the darn writing prompts himself. Of course there’s a risk she’ll get you two next year. [/quote]

Not so sure about this. MIL set it up so that she finds out if OP updates it. That is not a gift. That is her inserting herself as much as she can into their lives in the disguise of a gift. It's presumptuous. Shew could have given her a memory book to fill out that OP could just re-gift. It's up to husband to set the boundary or handle. He can do the updates or see if he can turn it on mom where she writes her memories to share with future generations. He needs to gently thank her for the thought, but explain that gifts that create work are not a good idea and she might want to run things by him next time.[/quote]

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