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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with everyone else that it’s a million times harder to keep my kids safe in my ILs home with many floor to ceiling china cabinets of ceramic figurines and floor level glass decorations in every single room. It’s much harder than a hotel too. My kids also expect attention from grandparents because my parents LOVE playing with them and it’s hard to explain this set is just not up for as much to toddlers (it’s easier now they are older). So if my ILs want to talk to their son without interruption, which is very reasonable, it’s a lot of effort. I can’t do it the whole day, luckily I don’t typically have to (partially because we stay elsewhere now and also my ILs do play with the kids some). Mi MIL in particular is not healthy so it feels different I think, like the can’t do much rather than they don’t want to. I have multiple times ended up cleaning up the entire meal because my ILs got excited about having people over and made/ordered way too much food and got overwhelmed. It’s ok. I do what I can and assume I’m essentially on duty in some capacity at all times in their house.

My DH will try to make sure I get time with my family when the reverse happens, and yes it’s way easier for a variety of reasons but it’s good enough for me.[/quote]

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