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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother died recently and my MIL's upcoming party is causing major envy for me. I'm having childish emotions: Why is she here and my mom is not? DH and his sister are throwing her a lavish bash that's involving plenty of planning, and I just want no part of it. I know this probably makes me a horrible human being. [/quote]

You're not a horrible person for being overwhelmingy sad about this birthday party for MIL when your own mother recently passed away.  If the DH family usually doesn't have such lavish birthday parties perhaps the event itself was triggered by the passing of your mom-have such a party while she is still around to enjoy it.  Is your father alive and were they in a close and loving relationship?  FIL?

Has MIL long term been kind, warm hearted , and respectful to you OR hands off but respectful OR a massive cloud of doom?  One of my DC's has a future MIL like the 1st and another who is married has one like the 3rd?   Unexpected turbulence.

Skip the planning and attend briefly if MIL and FIL (if exists) came to your Mom's funeral, all actions and words were appropriate, and has a track record like the 1st.  We had a very recent death in the family and horrid MIL response forever placed her in the negative.   [/quote]

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