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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If a family member gives a low dollar wedding gift (say under $40 for a couple) for a $100/person wedding, do you think they are signaling they don’t like you or think very much of you or the relationship, they’re cheap, or just clueless? They’re not poor. Of course I will be gracious to them but do I back off any relationship with them in the future?[/quote]

How much did they spend to be at the wedding?[/quote]

OP here. It’s a local wedding so they have no travel expenses. They have family watching their kids so no expense there. We gave them $300 for their wedding over 10 years ago. Our wedding is no more fancy than theirs was. I wasn’t expecting to recoup dollar for dollar and I don’t view the wedding as a gift grab. It’s just that the amount they spent is what we have spent on a birthday present for their kid. We are closely related, but not “close” if that makes any sense. There was no falling out or anything like that. Just different interests and life circumstances. This gift makes me think they don’t want to keep up the charade.[/quote]

OK I will admit it is a tad obnoxious you have them $300 and the spent $40 if they are indeed well off like you say. Clearly it upsets you. The thing you are not close. I don't spend $300 on people with whom I am not close even if they are family. If you aren't close, then there is no issue where you have to back away. I assume you will barely see them.

This is why I hate gifts in general. I don't like receiving them because in my family they come with strings and guilt trips. I worry when giving them that the person won't like it unless it is a wedding and I use the registry. Then I just hope I don't offend them by not spending enough or they find is strange I spent too much.

We are no gift type people. When we have gatherings we make that request. If you are invited it is truly because we enjoy your company and I am truly touched you came. I don't need any stuff, just friends and no games. Too often the gift can cause issues we don't need like this thread. No gifts please. [/quote]

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