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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you sure there’s not more to it? If it’s really as you describe (your daughters childhood was pretty happy, your husband was a moderate drinker but certainly not an alcoholic, your daughter wasn’t exposed to any truly dysfunctional people during her childhood besides controlled visits w her alcoholic grandmother) then I think your daughter is histrionic and emotionally immature at best in describing your DH’s “alcoholism” and her “childhood trauma.”

But maybe there’s more to the story…maybe there were incidents of your DH’s drinking that you conveniently forgot or are not admitting to…

My dad is an alcoholic but neither he nor my mom would ever admit that to anyone, even to themselves. How do I know my dad is an alcoholic? Because he drinks 4-5 drinks every single night and has for as long as I can remember minus 2 years when he randomly decided to become sober. I don’t think he has ever driven after drinking and he has never really seemed belligerent while drinking or hungover the next day but drinking as much as he does daily alone makes him an alcoholic. Are you sure your husband really only had 1-2 drinks a few nights a week? Are you sure there were no incidents w your daughter present? Like he drunkenly called her a name or otherwise was verbally abusive or did something upsetting/concerning?

If I mentioned to my parents that my dad is an alcoholic or even hinted that I think he drinks too much, they would both be shocked and appalled and gaslight me and deny it.[/quote]

This is one of the things that makes alcoholism so destructive -- everyone has to be complicit in the big lie that it's not happening. But OP's DD is the one telling OP what her dad did that makes her think he's an alcoholic, and it's not much.[/quote]

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