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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, can you casually accompany her to the hair salon and comment on a magazine with various hair styles?[/quote]

[b]Am I the only one who would be way more annoyed with passive aggressive moves like this one than knowing my husband wasn't a fan of my haircut? I really dislike it when DH doesn't like something I'm doing but will beat around the bush so that he has plausible deniability, rather than just saying what he thinks.[/b] I want to know where I stand rather than having to wonder.  [/quote]

I'm a guy, and the conversation wouldn't be about hair, but I totally agree about hating the passive aggressive communication style. You can be direct and matter-of-fact without being accusatory or demanding. That kind of communication is way better than hinting or indirectly stating preferences and hoping your spouse reads your mind.

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Side note: People seems confused about passive aggression. I haven't seen a single passive aggressive suggestion on here, just suggestions for white lies and hints. Passive aggressive would be DH pretending to confuse his wife for a man, or saying things like "I was going to buy you a beautiful hair barrette, but then I realized that you cut your hair too short for things like that."

You may prefer direct communication, but that doesn't automatically make all indirect communication "passive aggressive".[/quote]

Exactly: I am a woman and often go to hair salon with my mother and son.  It would be weird and sound criticizing to comment on their hair style at home. But at the hair salon there is an appropriate time and venue to discuss styles and options[/quote]

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