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[quote=Anonymous]Depends what you mean by “disown.”

There is nothing my child could do that would cause me not to love them. There is nothing my child could do that would keep me from visiting them in jail.

I would not shield my child from consequences, though, of heinous crimes. I would testify against them. I’d call the police on them. If it was truly heinous. If they were able to escape the law, but I was confident they were guilty, it may greatly impact how I treat them on a practical level. For example, if my child grew up to be a child molester, he would no longer be invited to any family events with children, at my insistence. But I would still probably have a relationship with him. I would also not keep secrets “oh, I’d love to meet your son” “you’re welcome to do that, however, though he wasn’t convicted due to lack of evidence, he is a child molester. That may change how you feel about meeting him, and I completely understand that.”

There are also situations where I would completely remove myself from my child’s life by necessity. A drug addicted child who refuses treatment and has stolen from me, might get a “I am always here and happy to pay for rehab or other health services, but I cannot be in your life until you get better. I’ll always love you no matter what, but you’re not welcome in my home or in my life unless you’re clean” kind of message IF I thought it was best for him.

My priority in these cases is 1) safety of innocent bystanders 2) helping my child 3) my own well being. In that order.

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