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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pretty much. My kids go to UVA where there is plenty of on grounds housing but many second years decide to get apartments. Mine did and had signed leases by Nov 1st. Things started moving on and off the market super fast once Oct 1st hit.[/quote]

How do kids have strong enough friendships in Oct of first year to commit to living with each other the following year? When I started college (many moons ago), the friendshios made in the first few weeks tended to be friendships of convenience, and then later in the semester “real” friendshios emerged which sometimes included thise first friends but often did not. [/quote]

I guess we were in luck. My DD is best friends with her now roommate and they were already very close by mid October. My DS is living with his first year roommate because they were a perfect match along with one other friend. They have a four bedroom apartment so they recruited a fourth by January who they get along with but we’re not really friends per se. I think it will work out well for them.

I know if one of my DDs friend group who is living with a group she’s not really friends with anymore but they are not enemies, so it’s just a matter of sharing an apartment, which is much easier than sharing a dorm room.

I will say that alot changed for the girls after rush, friendships changed and new ones formed but I think for the most part the kids have not made enemies of each other so they can still live together.  [/quote]

I have heard otherwise from students at UVA. It is a reason I want my HS senior to think twice about applying ED there. [/quote]
What exactly have you heard?  Sure some roommate relationships don’t work out but I don’t personally know why right now amongst my UVA kids. What exactly are you trying to avoid by not allowing your kid to apply ED?[/quote]

[b]I did hear this from a second year student there. I heard during the first year that it was stressful to have to pick roommates after only being at school a short time. Fast forward to now and she doesn't like her living situation because she's with people she'd rather not be. I am trying to avoid my DD who is anxious anyway from having to make this type of decision during the very first few months of school, which are overwhelming anyway.  I think it is a major flaw in how the school's housing is run. I'm frankly surprised others don't think it is a big deal. Some kids are that laid back, I guess. My kid is not.[/quote][/b]

I don't understand how this is a UVA problem.  You are not being clear.  Students can pick their own roommates for first year, etc., on.  My DS picked his online.  Or the school will pair you with one.  The second year he just let himself be assigned and would up with three other men in a quad dorm.  Next year and fourth he was in an apartment with friends.  So you can pick your own or be assigned.  I don't understand your point[/quote]

I'm not the person to whom you're responding but:

Freshmen -- who have been at school for mere WEEKS --are expected to pick other freshmen they've only know for those weeks as the people with whom they will commit to live, in a year's time, for an entire school year.

It's asking kids, for whom this is probalby their first experience of living away from home, to make judgements about virtual strangers as potential roommates and then lock those commitments into place. If they could pick sophomore year roommates in, say, spring of freshman year, not just weeks into fall of freshman year, they would make better choices because they would actually know their potential roommates much better by spring. But the insane forcing everyone to scramble for spots so very early - means students are flailing around trying to find roommates nearly a YEAR in advance, from a pool of kids they barely know at that point. It's a recipe for crappy relationships, tension and stress.
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