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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You set him up to fail by not only putting him in charge of something so important for a family event, but also adding an extra mystery size of an identical product into the mix. My husband can be a bit careless sometimes. Two things:

1) I would put him in charge of packing, but if it was something mission-critical like wedding wear, I’d either double check the items were packed myself, or I would ask him, “Did you pack Jimmy and Bobby’s tuxes?”

2) Going into a situation like that, I would have already removed the extraneous size from the mix and stored it or what have you.

For anyone who claims that would be enabling bad behavior…yeah, but he’s clearly not going to become a careful, think-it-through, follow-through person overnight just because of magical thinking.

For everyday stuff, if he forgets to pack his own sunglasses for the beach, oh well, looks like he’ll have to go to Sunsations and make do with what he can find. For a family wedding involving flights, I’m going to make sure we all have our full and proper outfits packed.

We play to our strengths: I help keep him organized, and he’s the one who talks me down when I’m spiraling out from anxiety. [/quote]

I admire you because I would have been divorced long ago.[/quote]

He takes care of a million things that I cannot or really don’t want to do, including our taxes, all lawn/yard work (which on our property is significant), dealing with cars (including taking mine to get emissions inspections and things like that), “gross” stuff like cleaning out the compost bin, and dealing with repair people. Like I said, we play to our strengths, and I honestly feel our division of labor comes out fairly even.

Not only does the division of labor come out even, but he “takes over” when I’m experiencing depression and/or anxiety, and that is not insignificant. Especially during the pandemic. So if I find myself buying a few more special-event outfits and packing a few more suitcases, I can live with that. If you would divorce over that, I guess that’s on you. If you’d blow up your children’s lives over a few extra suitcases, good for you?[/quote]

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