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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a friend in law school who was really unattractive. She had a bad complexion, oily skin, long face, really strong manly jawline, was very skinny, and bad hair. My first impression was that she was one of the most unattractive people I have ever met. Then I got to know her. She became a loyal friend who was so funny, so smart, and someone I loved to spend time with. I no longer see an unattractive person, it’s actually hard to think I ever viewed her that way. Your personality and self confidence can completely change how someone perceives your “attractiveness.” Please talk to a therapist so you can change your mindset even if you can’t change your looks. [/quote]

So, you were pretty harsh toward somebody, but becasue she had this amazing personality she gained your approval. So your advice is for OP to totally change, to become funny, smart, and self-confident, then she too can gain the approval of people like you.

This isn't terrible advice, but I hope this shows you the awful spot in society that we put ugly people in. In order for them to enjoy basic respect and good relationships, we tell them they have to work far, far harder than others. I think OP is allowed to wallow for a bit about that.

I think my post was misinterpreted. My point was really that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. People are beautiful for how they treat others and the type of person they are. I simply listed all the reasons why my friend was so lovely. I wasn’t suggesting OP has to do these things to win approval. I simply got to know my friend and loved the person I got to know. Looks are not everything but we are each genetically wired to find certain types of features attractive. I was simply sharing a private first impression when seeing someone for the first time across the room who I had not met before. Are you telling me you have never looked at someone and thought privately they were unattractive? If you say yes, I don’t believe you. I also never said OP couldn’t wallow. I wallow about aspects of my appearance all the time.

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