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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the reason the counselor might have said this is because it's too hard on the mom if a kid doesn't have any self-sufficiency and the care and money for kids just tends to go downhill once people divorce. But I'm just guessing.[/quote]

It’s definitely one factor. We waited until DS was 10 which has costs and benefits. I was in no way ready when he was 5. [/quote]

Thank you for responding with some intelligence which the OP did not. I was the sci if mentally insane poster just trying to help in a moment I had since I had to decide this myself but for kids older than hers and not five. But I’m not going to do it if any OP wants to engage and affirm posters just trying to derail threads. What ends up happening is that I end up spending more time than the OP on the topic and I don’t even need the help. Seems like this time traveler won’t go away so will have to find another outlet for discussion. [/quote]

What in the world?! [/quote]

If you are OP,  one of your issues is that you are rude. But what I was saying is that Jeff is not policing the relationship forum and there is a poster that goes on every thread and just tries to derail conversations by saying to any problem" Too bad for you. Should have made a better past decision." It's just derailment. After showing up in about 50 threads it's obvious something is missing in this person's life and not that they just happen to have help on any number of topics. You could say that about jobs. About the home you choose. About the school you chose. Etc.  It's kind of a given that if you have a problem, it's very possible that you could be more discerning about any number of things.  But it's unhelpful because you can't recreate the past typically and redo like a computer program. We only live once and at some point have to make a decision and move forward. And sometimes you write a program of life and some bug comes in and messes up the system that you didn't account for. You didn't even know about this bug and wouldn't have if you had two years to figure it out. So you just have to cut your losses and move on rather than reminiscing about how better things could have been if you had just made some better decision in the past or foolproofed your marriage better.
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Someone may have started drinking early in the day. [/quote]

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