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Reply to "If you’re staying together for the kids, do you acknowledge it?"
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[quote=Anonymous]OP - I suggest getting really specific with yourself first, then with your husband (maybe in therapy?) about what staying together means for you and why. Write it down in detail. Does this mean trying to continue to "save" the marriage? Sleeping in separate rooms but doing family activities together? Vacations separate or together? Still having sex with each other? With others? Sharing of expenses? Are you actually ready for divorce? Or are you pretending to yourself that you are but are actually terrified and blaming kids for this? Unless your marriage was purely a transactional / legal event from the outset, your marriage may already be over - so in order to transition to the next stage, you need honesty about what that looks like. If you and your DH are capable of living civilly together "for the kids" then you are also capable of divorcing civilly "for the kids" and living more authentically as adults. [/quote]
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