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[quote=Anonymous] :( [quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are two posts in the relationship forum re: dud husbands/wives, so I thought I'd start one here for dud children. Anyone willing to admit they have dud adult kids? I married a dud (divorced), and I feel like my kids are turning out to be dud'ish like him. It makes me so sad because I suspect that dud-like behavior is hereditary. For the record, three boys, 20, 22 and 26. [/quote]

Not sure if this is a troll post...but if it isn't, OP-would you feel the same way about your kids if they were three girls? Also, they are still young and lots of young folks are not fully ripened yet. It seems early to decide they are 'duds'. I have 4 of my 6 kids in their 20's and there is a huge difference between 20 and 30.[/quote]

Op here, and no this is not at all a troll post. And yes,[b] if they were girls, dudness would likely be more pronounced since society is harder on women.[/b] I'm not being hard on my kids; I am calling a spade a spade. They are very similar to my ex as far as low ambition and pulling teeth to get small tasks completed.

I started the s/o thread to attack/identify the root of the problem: Dud adults/spouses were once somebody's dud children. The problem with assigning youth as an excuse is that the husbands and wives who are current duds were likely that way in their 20's too.  I am certain their parents saw it and happily married the kids off to be someone else's problem. No way in hell dud-ways first emerge in a marriage. If you are married to a dud, you were dud-duped.[/quote]

Society is a lot easier on girls and women in this regard. A DD living at home and working a dead end job is over looked, a DS in the same situation is thought of as a loser. There is no pressure(socially or from society) for a girl/woman to find a good job, live on their own, etc. it is not the same for males. Right now 52% of young adults 18-29 live at home- 49% female and 55% males. [/quote]

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