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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand your problems but you should look for different solutions.

The problem here is that you have an issue of being lonely and wanting to go out to eat periodically.  But your solution is to take away something that he enjoys and perhaps helps with his emotional balance, e.g. his lunch out with co-workers.  I think it better that you convey to him your two points that you are lonely and that you want to go out to eat with someone you know periodically.  Since you don't know anyone because you moved her because of his job, you would like to go out to eat with him periodically.  He can decide whether he wants to periodically take a day and have lunch with you or if you go out to eat dinner regularly.

The point is to give him the problem and let him help figure out a solution.  You don't want to suggest that he give something up unless he wants to give it up.  All that does is make both of you unhappy.  It's better to find a way to make both of you happy.[/quote]

OP have you read this advice? It’s really good.

I know it’s really frustrating because you already tried to come up with a solution and were rebuffed. But thats not the end. Collaborate. Be solution-oriented. [/quote]

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