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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not regret it. But it probably would have been easier logistically with kids to stay married and just have an affair until they were a little older. I offered that alternative to divorce. We never had sex but he still said no. [/quote]

It's an unpopular opinion but I agree that if you can pull off an affair in a low sex marriage it's a much better alternative than divorce.  Eventually, your hormones calm down and you can live happily ever after. Many couples that make it to old age together have undiscovered affairs. [/quote]

I consider myself really open minded, but that’s not then kind of long-term relationship I would ever want, one where you are life partners until you die, but you’ve kept a fundamental betrayal from that other person. That’s pretty gross actually. I would sooner have an open affair and try to maintain my marriage than do something like that. I’m not sure how someone even considers that a quality relationship.[/quote]

They are not considering it a quality relationship. They consider it to stay married for other reasons than the relationship itself. Like surviving a bad marriage for kids, finances, etc. the relationship is obviously not quality to begin with in these situations. Happily married people will never understand how bad a marriage has to be to consider this or divorce. [/quote]

It's definitely both. But as a society we downplay women's sexuality to an incredible degree. I can't tell you how many of my friends have no idea what their bodies are capable of because they have been shamed into lying on their backs with only one partner for their entire life. I get the benefits to society but the individuals are robbed of so much in this framework. I believe fully in monogamy but to assume it's working perfectly for women is a total sham.

Nah.  Some men do this for a midlife crisis and it’s nothing to do with the quality of the relationship or the wife.  It’s pretty common in 50-year marriages for a lapse, even the very happy marriages.

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Is it really just man? After reading DC board for a while, I learned that there are many lonely, horny wives in sexless marriage who are looking for men who will satisfy their needs..[/quote][/quote]

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