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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The more negative response are likely from people with tougher babies (so you have to be extremely rigid about napping on time in a crib, you have to have them in a quiet boring spot to feed, they get grouchy in carriers, and scream their heads off in they’re over something).  Maternity leave with this type of babies isn’t fun - you can’t do much, it’s very isolating, it’s too stressful to meet a friend for lunch just to not able to finish a sentence and inhale your food etc

[b]If you have a go with the flow baby[/b] of course it’s great if you can basically do whatever you want with baby strapped on or passed to a friend or flexible with a baby sitter or gym childcare or whatever. It’s amazing not living in fear that you’re going to mess up night sleep even more and end up even more exhausted just because they’re napping on the go

I had one of each.  You don’t “make” your babies relaxed or high strung, they just are.  I too patted myself on the back for all the good things about myself thinking I had done all the right things to make those parts of him so good, then I got kicked on my ass and very humbled by my second

So OP - you may love it, you may hate it, you may have tons of fun or [b]live constantly on the clock to ensure baby can be down exactly on time[/b], just go into it knowing it can go lots of different ways and don’t feel like you’re somehow messing up if you can’t frolic around museums and lunch with friends all day [/quote]

I didn’t have a difficult baby, but I was insistent on keeping to a schedule and prioritizing naps.  It paid off as we improved sleep over time and I had a baby STTN around 4 months.  Anecdotally, my mom friends who just took their babies wherever and had them go with the flow, didn’t have as easy of a time with sleep.  So some of the ability to freely leave your house might depend on how you feel about sleep and schedules.  [/quote]

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