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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Husband is insistent that we stay with parents and says he doesn't care about their accommodations. He cannot afford to shell out for a hotel for 2 weeks and if I feel like it would be an imposition for him to stay with them at their situation then I should go by myself.

I don't know what to do.[/quote]

It's actually quite simple. If you guys can't afford a hotel or airb&b for 2 weeks, then you cut the length of your stay. Otherwise your parents would stress themselves beyond belief.

I'm beginning to think that your DH is willfully obtuse. He's not hearing what your concerns are, that no matter what he thinks, it's a huge imposition on your parents. Instead he's presenting these stark "either or" choices. I'd be embarrassed about being married to a dolt than having poor parents.[/quote]

You need to explain the situation to your husband now. And work together to find a solution.  Everything you are saying about you and him (your parents sound perfect) sound like red flags. Your husband is being rude and entitled about  your parents insisting they host you. And then saying he won’t go visit. Has he even met your parents?  Either way they are his family now too. You are embarrassed about s fact of life and can’t communicate the truth  to your dh that your parents are poor and can’t afford this setup. You have just committed to spend your lives with each other, how are you embarrassed like this is a new boyfriend or you are in 11th grade?

I don’t usually say this but it seems like your parents’ poverty is the least of your problems. Please do not have kids and consider growing up and possibly divorcing and starting over in a few years if perhaps you both are just too you for adulthood. [/quote]

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