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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do think the PP makes a good point about how wealthy men often expect a certain type of wife. This is part of why I don't envy most women with wealthy husbands. I would not do well with a man who had expectations that I always look a certain way. And I'm naturally thin, even after kids, and fairly attractive -- I just don't like having to look done or feel like there is pressure on me to look a certain way FOR my husband. Many wealthy men expect their wives to be a visual compliment to them at events and work gatherings. I would not enjoy that pressure. I want the freedom to wear something offbeat or more comfortable as I choose. I wouldn't want the pressure to play the part of the good corporate/BigLaw wife. There might be rich guys who would be okay with that, but I didn't go hunting for one.

Also, many of my friends who are married to wealthy men... their houses are perfect. Their kids go to private and are expected to perform at a high level. A lot of pressure to get into a selective private HS and college. These guys often want bragging rights, whether it's a gorgeous house in the right neighborhood or their child's soccer team winning a championship or their kid getting into Stanford or whatever. I do not live my life that way.

I'm an introvert with a strong independent streak. I love and support my husband but I also do my own thing. I want my kids to be happy and I don't even care if they go to college at all as long as they have a plan for themselves and are rational about their life choices. I went to law school but I didn't play that competitive game and opted out of the rat race for more independent, academic work (that is not remotely impressive in cocktail conversation). I kill all our houseplants and I started painting the living room 9 months ago and it's still not done. And my husband is fine with all of that, could not care less.

Call it the soft bigotry of low expectations, but I like my middle class lifestyle with my middle class husband. We joke about winning the lottery but really we're pretty happy with our life as it is.[/quote]

This comment is so refreshing. Thank you for *GETTING IT*. The point is being married to a wealthy man is not the same as being a married to your regular everyday middle class man. 
Marrying a wealthy successful man comes with a price. A price most women don't think about.

I also, appreciate you saying you like your middle class lifestyle with your middle class husband. Most woman want that tbh...

While most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man. I do think most woman prefer a middle class man and lifestyle. [/quote]

Maybe I just grew up differently, but my biglaw father did not have unrealistic expectations. My parents both put academic pressure on us but other than that it wasn’t like either of them were demanding perfection, and our house was incredibly modest for what they could have afforded. my best friends dad growing up dad was an extremely successful Wall Street type, and her parents didn’t seem like this either. The pressure was all academic because wr had smart parents who expected the same of their kids particularly for all the opportunity we had. I wouldn’t tell yourself that you couldn’t handle being in an upper class marriage, because they are as diverse in dynamic as any other income level. [/quote]

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