Anonymous
04/23/2022 20:20
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was rich, hot, and a great dad and spouse..than yeah, I might be drooling a bit!
Me too! But that combo is SO EXTREMELY RARE. Normally Big Law/C level etc = Big Ego and marital problems. I know too many women who stay married to cheating husbands for financial security. I'm so happy I have (and earn) my own money. Yes, my husband is rich... so am I. We are equals as is our power balance in the relationship. Have at me DCUM....
The bolded is what no one wants to discuss. TBH... when a woman marries a wealthy alpha man she should expect to get cheated on...
OP, take heed. This is another downside of being a woman who married a man who is financially successful:
you learn how many people secretly wish destruction on your whole life. Envy truly is the root of evil. Before DCUM, I knew that existed somewhat, but I had no idea how pervasive the sentiment was.
HUH??? I'm the one that made the above statement. Not sure how you interpreted as me wishing destruction on your whole life.
Being cheated on when married a wealthy successful man is an unfortunate reality women dont want to discuss nor even acknowledge. You may not be your husband's only wife. Thats something a lot of women who marry wealthy men have at the back of their mind.
Wealthy Successful men are not like regular men. Becoming wealthy takes a level of intelligence, strategy, shrewd, understanding the world in ways most don't and so much more i'm too tired to type out that the average man does not possess.
Most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man but the average woman does not have what it takes to be married to a man like that. I'm happy i got out of my little girl fantasy when i came to this realization at the age of 25.
Another woman commented on her successful husband having high expectations of her. DUH! Marrying a wealthy man or wealthy women (lesbians for example) comes with a price. A price most people dont want to pay.
This actually seems to be untrue of many men I know in biglaw and even finance, including in my own family. The wife runs the show even when the husband brings in the lionshare of the income. But I’m Jewish as is most of my circle so maybe that’s a cultural thing. The lawyers in particular seem to be quietC introverted intellectual types who wanted to use their brains to make money instead of being, say, a professor. Generally not assholes. Finance guys tend to be the flashier type, and I know some obnoxious husbands but for the most part very committed to their families.
You can be committed to your family and still cheat. Your comment reflects you’re not that bright… or should I say you don’t strike me as a shrewd crafty woman. Naive af about men. Lol I pity women like you.
Lol I assure you I’m fairly intelligent. Maybe you’re just a bitter, cynical mean spirited loser who feels bad about their life and needs to console themselves by telling yourself that there must be a catch to marrying someone wealthy or successful. Shrug. You do you.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 20:18
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was rich, hot, and a great dad and spouse..than yeah, I might be drooling a bit!
Me too! But that combo is SO EXTREMELY RARE. Normally Big Law/C level etc = Big Ego and marital problems. I know too many women who stay married to cheating husbands for financial security. I'm so happy I have (and earn) my own money. Yes, my husband is rich... so am I. We are equals as is our power balance in the relationship. Have at me DCUM....
The bolded is what no one wants to discuss. TBH... when a woman marries a wealthy alpha man she should expect to get cheated on...
OP, take heed. This is another downside of being a woman who married a man who is financially successful:
you learn how many people secretly wish destruction on your whole life. Envy truly is the root of evil. Before DCUM, I knew that existed somewhat, but I had no idea how pervasive the sentiment was.
Or maybe I just surround myself with nice people, and you’re a bitter, mean spirited person who feels bad about their life and has to tell themselves that there’s a “catch” to being wealthy.
HUH??? I'm the one that made the above statement. Not sure how you interpreted as me wishing destruction on your whole life.
Being cheated on when married a wealthy successful man is an unfortunate reality women dont want to discuss nor even acknowledge. You may not be your husband's only wife. Thats something a lot of women who marry wealthy men have at the back of their mind.
Wealthy Successful men are not like regular men. Becoming wealthy takes a level of intelligence, strategy, shrewd, understanding the world in ways most don't and so much more i'm too tired to type out that the average man does not possess.
Most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man but the average woman does not have what it takes to be married to a man like that. I'm happy i got out of my little girl fantasy when i came to this realization at the age of 25.
Another woman commented on her successful husband having high expectations of her. DUH! Marrying a wealthy man or wealthy women (lesbians for example) comes with a price. A price most people dont want to pay.
This actually seems to be untrue of many men I know in biglaw and even finance, including in my own family. The wife runs the show even when the husband brings in the lionshare of the income. But I’m Jewish as is most of my circle so maybe that’s a cultural thing. The lawyers in particular seem to be quietC introverted intellectual types who wanted to use their brains to make money instead of being, say, a professor. Generally not assholes. Finance guys tend to be the flashier type, and I know some obnoxious husbands but for the most part very committed to their families.
You can be committed to your family and still cheat. Your comment reflects you’re not that bright… or should I say you don’t strike me as a shrewd crafty woman. Naive af about men. Lol I pity women like you.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 18:27
Subject: Re:How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I do think the PP makes a good point about how wealthy men often expect a certain type of wife. This is part of why I don't envy most women with wealthy husbands. I would not do well with a man who had expectations that I always look a certain way. And I'm naturally thin, even after kids, and fairly attractive -- I just don't like having to look done or feel like there is pressure on me to look a certain way FOR my husband. Many wealthy men expect their wives to be a visual compliment to them at events and work gatherings. I would not enjoy that pressure. I want the freedom to wear something offbeat or more comfortable as I choose. I wouldn't want the pressure to play the part of the good corporate/BigLaw wife. There might be rich guys who would be okay with that, but I didn't go hunting for one.
Also, many of my friends who are married to wealthy men... their houses are perfect. Their kids go to private and are expected to perform at a high level. A lot of pressure to get into a selective private HS and college. These guys often want bragging rights, whether it's a gorgeous house in the right neighborhood or their child's soccer team winning a championship or their kid getting into Stanford or whatever. I do not live my life that way.
I'm an introvert with a strong independent streak. I love and support my husband but I also do my own thing. I want my kids to be happy and I don't even care if they go to college at all as long as they have a plan for themselves and are rational about their life choices. I went to law school but I didn't play that competitive game and opted out of the rat race for more independent, academic work (that is not remotely impressive in cocktail conversation). I kill all our houseplants and I started painting the living room 9 months ago and it's still not done. And my husband is fine with all of that, could not care less.
Call it the soft bigotry of low expectations, but I like my middle class lifestyle with my middle class husband. We joke about winning the lottery but really we're pretty happy with our life as it is.
This comment is so refreshing. Thank you for *GETTING IT*. The point is being married to a wealthy man is not the same as being a married to your regular everyday middle class man.
Marrying a wealthy successful man comes with a price. A price most women don't think about.
I also, appreciate you saying you like your middle class lifestyle with your middle class husband. Most woman want that tbh...
While most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man. I do think most woman prefer a middle class man and lifestyle.
Maybe I just grew up differently, but my biglaw father did not have unrealistic expectations. My parents both put academic pressure on us but other than that it wasn’t like either of them were demanding perfection, and our house was incredibly modest for what they could have afforded. my best friends dad growing up dad was an extremely successful Wall Street type, and her parents didn’t seem like this either. The pressure was all academic because wr had smart parents who expected the same of their kids particularly for all the opportunity we had. I wouldn’t tell yourself that you couldn’t handle being in an upper class marriage, because they are as diverse in dynamic as any other income level.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 17:45
Subject: Re:How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I do think the PP makes a good point about how wealthy men often expect a certain type of wife. This is part of why I don't envy most women with wealthy husbands. I would not do well with a man who had expectations that I always look a certain way. And I'm naturally thin, even after kids, and fairly attractive -- I just don't like having to look done or feel like there is pressure on me to look a certain way FOR my husband. Many wealthy men expect their wives to be a visual compliment to them at events and work gatherings. I would not enjoy that pressure. I want the freedom to wear something offbeat or more comfortable as I choose. I wouldn't want the pressure to play the part of the good corporate/BigLaw wife. There might be rich guys who would be okay with that, but I didn't go hunting for one.
Also, many of my friends who are married to wealthy men... their houses are perfect. Their kids go to private and are expected to perform at a high level. A lot of pressure to get into a selective private HS and college. These guys often want bragging rights, whether it's a gorgeous house in the right neighborhood or their child's soccer team winning a championship or their kid getting into Stanford or whatever. I do not live my life that way.
I'm an introvert with a strong independent streak. I love and support my husband but I also do my own thing. I want my kids to be happy and I don't even care if they go to college at all as long as they have a plan for themselves and are rational about their life choices. I went to law school but I didn't play that competitive game and opted out of the rat race for more independent, academic work (that is not remotely impressive in cocktail conversation). I kill all our houseplants and I started painting the living room 9 months ago and it's still not done. And my husband is fine with all of that, could not care less.
Call it the soft bigotry of low expectations, but I like my middle class lifestyle with my middle class husband. We joke about winning the lottery but really we're pretty happy with our life as it is.
This comment is so refreshing. Thank you for *GETTING IT*. The point is being married to a wealthy man is not the same as being a married to your regular everyday middle class man.
Marrying a wealthy successful man comes with a price. A price most women don't think about.
I also, appreciate you saying you like your middle class lifestyle with your middle class husband. Most woman want that tbh...
While most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man. I do think most woman prefer a middle class man and lifestyle.
That’s exactly what this is PP. Low expectations. I would hate this.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 17:43
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:We all work hard but I notice that marrying the right guy really gives a woman a huge leg up. Most of us are working in jobs that pay us anywhere from 80k - 150k and then one of us marries a guy in Big Law or IB and her life is totally different.
Every time this happens, I feel a pang. Like, she jumped the line simply because a rich guy wanted to marry her?
How do I get over the envy and jealousy?
Get a job OP. Work in Big Law or IB. Then you’ll be too busy to feel jealous.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 17:38
Subject: Re:How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:I do think the PP makes a good point about how wealthy men often expect a certain type of wife. This is part of why I don't envy most women with wealthy husbands. I would not do well with a man who had expectations that I always look a certain way. And I'm naturally thin, even after kids, and fairly attractive -- I just don't like having to look done or feel like there is pressure on me to look a certain way FOR my husband. Many wealthy men expect their wives to be a visual compliment to them at events and work gatherings. I would not enjoy that pressure. I want the freedom to wear something offbeat or more comfortable as I choose. I wouldn't want the pressure to play the part of the good corporate/BigLaw wife. There might be rich guys who would be okay with that, but I didn't go hunting for one.
Also, many of my friends who are married to wealthy men... their houses are perfect. Their kids go to private and are expected to perform at a high level. A lot of pressure to get into a selective private HS and college. These guys often want bragging rights, whether it's a gorgeous house in the right neighborhood or their child's soccer team winning a championship or their kid getting into Stanford or whatever. I do not live my life that way.
I'm an introvert with a strong independent streak. I love and support my husband but I also do my own thing. I want my kids to be happy and I don't even care if they go to college at all as long as they have a plan for themselves and are rational about their life choices. I went to law school but I didn't play that competitive game and opted out of the rat race for more independent, academic work (that is not remotely impressive in cocktail conversation). I kill all our houseplants and I started painting the living room 9 months ago and it's still not done. And my husband is fine with all of that, could not care less.
Call it the soft bigotry of low expectations, but I like my middle class lifestyle with my middle class husband. We joke about winning the lottery but really we're pretty happy with our life as it is.
This comment is so refreshing. Thank you for *GETTING IT*. The point is being married to a wealthy man is not the same as being a married to your regular everyday middle class man.
Marrying a wealthy successful man comes with a price. A price most women don't think about.
I also, appreciate you saying you like your middle class lifestyle with your middle class husband. Most woman want that tbh...
While most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man. I do think most woman prefer a middle class man and lifestyle.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 17:28
Subject: Re:How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
I do think the PP makes a good point about how wealthy men often expect a certain type of wife. This is part of why I don't envy most women with wealthy husbands. I would not do well with a man who had expectations that I always look a certain way. And I'm naturally thin, even after kids, and fairly attractive -- I just don't like having to look done or feel like there is pressure on me to look a certain way FOR my husband. Many wealthy men expect their wives to be a visual compliment to them at events and work gatherings. I would not enjoy that pressure. I want the freedom to wear something offbeat or more comfortable as I choose. I wouldn't want the pressure to play the part of the good corporate/BigLaw wife. There might be rich guys who would be okay with that, but I didn't go hunting for one.
Also, many of my friends who are married to wealthy men... their houses are perfect. Their kids go to private and are expected to perform at a high level. A lot of pressure to get into a selective private HS and college. These guys often want bragging rights, whether it's a gorgeous house in the right neighborhood or their child's soccer team winning a championship or their kid getting into Stanford or whatever. I do not live my life that way.
I'm an introvert with a strong independent streak. I love and support my husband but I also do my own thing. I want my kids to be happy and I don't even care if they go to college at all as long as they have a plan for themselves and are rational about their life choices. I went to law school but I didn't play that competitive game and opted out of the rat race for more independent, academic work (that is not remotely impressive in cocktail conversation). I kill all our houseplants and I started painting the living room 9 months ago and it's still not done. And my husband is fine with all of that, could not care less.
Call it the soft bigotry of low expectations, but I like my middle class lifestyle with my middle class husband. We joke about winning the lottery but really we're pretty happy with our life as it is.
Also, many of my friends who are married to wealthy men... their houses are perfect. Their kids go to private and are expected to perform at a high level. A lot of pressure to get into a selective private HS and college. These guys often want bragging rights, whether it's a gorgeous house in the right neighborhood or their child's soccer team winning a championship or their kid getting into Stanford or whatever. I do not live my life that way.
I'm an introvert with a strong independent streak. I love and support my husband but I also do my own thing. I want my kids to be happy and I don't even care if they go to college at all as long as they have a plan for themselves and are rational about their life choices. I went to law school but I didn't play that competitive game and opted out of the rat race for more independent, academic work (that is not remotely impressive in cocktail conversation). I kill all our houseplants and I started painting the living room 9 months ago and it's still not done. And my husband is fine with all of that, could not care less.
Call it the soft bigotry of low expectations, but I like my middle class lifestyle with my middle class husband. We joke about winning the lottery but really we're pretty happy with our life as it is.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 17:17
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was rich, hot, and a great dad and spouse..than yeah, I might be drooling a bit!
Me too! But that combo is SO EXTREMELY RARE. Normally Big Law/C level etc = Big Ego and marital problems. I know too many women who stay married to cheating husbands for financial security. I'm so happy I have (and earn) my own money. Yes, my husband is rich... so am I. We are equals as is our power balance in the relationship. Have at me DCUM....
The bolded is what no one wants to discuss. TBH... when a woman marries a wealthy alpha man she should expect to get cheated on...
OP, take heed. This is another downside of being a woman who married a man who is financially successful:
you learn how many people secretly wish destruction on your whole life. Envy truly is the root of evil. Before DCUM, I knew that existed somewhat, but I had no idea how pervasive the sentiment was.
HUH??? I'm the one that made the above statement. Not sure how you interpreted as me wishing destruction on your whole life.
Being cheated on when married a wealthy successful man is an unfortunate reality women dont want to discuss nor even acknowledge. You may not be your husband's only wife. Thats something a lot of women who marry wealthy men have at the back of their mind.
Wealthy Successful men are not like regular men. Becoming wealthy takes a level of intelligence, strategy, shrewd, understanding the world in ways most don't and so much more i'm too tired to type out that the average man does not possess.
Most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man but the average woman does not have what it takes to be married to a man like that. I'm happy i got out of my little girl fantasy when i came to this realization at the age of 25.
Another woman commented on her successful husband having high expectations of her. DUH! Marrying a wealthy man or wealthy women (lesbians for example) comes with a price. A price most people dont want to pay.
This actually seems to be untrue of many men I know in biglaw and even finance, including in my own family. The wife runs the show even when the husband brings in the lionshare of the income. But I’m Jewish as is most of my circle so maybe that’s a cultural thing. The lawyers in particular seem to be quietC introverted intellectual types who wanted to use their brains to make money instead of being, say, a professor. Generally not assholes. Finance guys tend to be the flashier type, and I know some obnoxious husbands but for the most part very committed to their families.
You can be committed to your family and still cheat. Your comment reflects you’re not that bright… or should I say you don’t strike me as a shrewd crafty woman. Naive af about men. Lol I pity women like you.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 17:15
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was rich, hot, and a great dad and spouse..than yeah, I might be drooling a bit!
Me too! But that combo is SO EXTREMELY RARE. Normally Big Law/C level etc = Big Ego and marital problems. I know too many women who stay married to cheating husbands for financial security. I'm so happy I have (and earn) my own money. Yes, my husband is rich... so am I. We are equals as is our power balance in the relationship. Have at me DCUM....
The bolded is what no one wants to discuss. TBH... when a woman marries a wealthy alpha man she should expect to get cheated on...
OP, take heed. This is another downside of being a woman who married a man who is financially successful:
you learn how many people secretly wish destruction on your whole life. Envy truly is the root of evil. Before DCUM, I knew that existed somewhat, but I had no idea how pervasive the sentiment was.
HUH??? I'm the one that made the above statement. Not sure how you interpreted as me wishing destruction on your whole life.
Being cheated on when married a wealthy successful man is an unfortunate reality women dont want to discuss nor even acknowledge. You may not be your husband's only wife. Thats something a lot of women who marry wealthy men have at the back of their mind.
Wealthy Successful men are not like regular men. Becoming wealthy takes a level of intelligence, strategy, shrewd, understanding the world in ways most don't and so much more i'm too tired to type out that the average man does not possess.
Most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man but the average woman does not have what it takes to be married to a man like that. I'm happy i got out of my little girl fantasy when i came to this realization at the age of 25.
Another woman commented on her successful husband having high expectations of her. DUH! Marrying a wealthy man or wealthy women (lesbians for example) comes with a price. A price most people dont want to pay.
This actually seems to be untrue of many men I know in biglaw and even finance, including in my own family. The wife runs the show even when the husband brings in the lionshare of the income. But I’m Jewish as is most of my circle so maybe that’s a cultural thing. The lawyers in particular seem to be quietC introverted intellectual types who wanted to use their brains to make money instead of being, say, a professor. Generally not assholes. Finance guys tend to be the flashier type, and I know some obnoxious husbands but for the most part very committed to their families.
How on earth did you interpret my comment on wealthy men/husbands being assholes?? Nowhere did I imply their assholes.
Just because someone cheats does not mean their an asshole. All I’m saying is when a woman marries a wealthy man she should not be shocked if her husband cheats on her. Emotionally or physically.
And of course the wife runs the show— duh. Women who marry wealthy men have to run the show because their husbands working long hours and are always busy making the big bucks.
You interpreted my comment completely wrong. You were spot on about them being intellectual. Wealthy men are wealthy because it requires a type of intellectual intelligence. Other then that, you interpreted my comment wrong.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 16:51
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was rich, hot, and a great dad and spouse..than yeah, I might be drooling a bit!
Me too! But that combo is SO EXTREMELY RARE. Normally Big Law/C level etc = Big Ego and marital problems. I know too many women who stay married to cheating husbands for financial security. I'm so happy I have (and earn) my own money. Yes, my husband is rich... so am I. We are equals as is our power balance in the relationship. Have at me DCUM....
The bolded is what no one wants to discuss. TBH... when a woman marries a wealthy alpha man she should expect to get cheated on...
OP, take heed. This is another downside of being a woman who married a man who is financially successful:
you learn how many people secretly wish destruction on your whole life. Envy truly is the root of evil. Before DCUM, I knew that existed somewhat, but I had no idea how pervasive the sentiment was.
HUH??? I'm the one that made the above statement. Not sure how you interpreted as me wishing destruction on your whole life.
Being cheated on when married a wealthy successful man is an unfortunate reality women dont want to discuss nor even acknowledge. You may not be your husband's only wife. Thats something a lot of women who marry wealthy men have at the back of their mind.
Wealthy Successful men are not like regular men. Becoming wealthy takes a level of intelligence, strategy, shrewd, understanding the world in ways most don't and so much more i'm too tired to type out that the average man does not possess.
Most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man but the average woman does not have what it takes to be married to a man like that. I'm happy i got out of my little girl fantasy when i came to this realization at the age of 25.
Another woman commented on her successful husband having high expectations of her. DUH! Marrying a wealthy man or wealthy women (lesbians for example) comes with a price. A price most people dont want to pay.
This actually seems to be untrue of many men I know in biglaw and even finance, including in my own family. The wife runs the show even when the husband brings in the lionshare of the income. But I’m Jewish as is most of my circle so maybe that’s a cultural thing. The lawyers in particular seem to be quietC introverted intellectual types who wanted to use their brains to make money instead of being, say, a professor. Generally not assholes. Finance guys tend to be the flashier type, and I know some obnoxious husbands but for the most part very committed to their families.
Anonymous
04/23/2022 14:33
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I married a fund manager and he's in good shape and does not really have any of the issues people are complaining about. I guess he works a lot, but mostly from home. I work a lot, too. He does have extremely high expectations, and I feel them as his wife, and our kids definitely feel them, so that's something to consider if you'd prefer to coast through life a bit. OP, if you aren't married yet and you know this matters to you, then limit your dating pool.
NP here, I’m curious what you mean that your husband has extremely high expectations and that you and your kids feel them? In what way- looks, being achievers academically or career for you, athletically?
All of the above, I'm sure. Im not the women whose married to the fund manager but i'm happy she has come out and admit this. Regular women need to know what women who marry wealthy people put up with. EVERYTHING in life comes with a price. The question is ... do you have what it takes???
Anonymous
04/23/2022 14:31
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was rich, hot, and a great dad and spouse..than yeah, I might be drooling a bit!
Me too! But that combo is SO EXTREMELY RARE. Normally Big Law/C level etc = Big Ego and marital problems. I know too many women who stay married to cheating husbands for financial security. I'm so happy I have (and earn) my own money. Yes, my husband is rich... so am I. We are equals as is our power balance in the relationship. Have at me DCUM....
The bolded is what no one wants to discuss. TBH... when a woman marries a wealthy alpha man she should expect to get cheated on...
OP, take heed. This is another downside of being a woman who married a man who is financially successful:
you learn how many people secretly wish destruction on your whole life. Envy truly is the root of evil. Before DCUM, I knew that existed somewhat, but I had no idea how pervasive the sentiment was.
HUH??? I'm the one that made the above statement. Not sure how you interpreted as me wishing destruction on your whole life.
Being cheated on when married a wealthy successful man is an unfortunate reality women dont want to discuss nor even acknowledge. You may not be your husband's only wife. Thats something a lot of women who marry wealthy men have at the back of their mind.
Wealthy Successful men are not like regular men. Becoming wealthy takes a level of intelligence, strategy, shrewd, understanding the world in ways most don't and so much more i'm too tired to type out that the average man does not possess.
Most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man but the average woman does not have what it takes to be married to a man like that. I'm happy i got out of my little girl fantasy when i came to this realization at the age of 25.
Another woman commented on her successful husband having high expectations of her. DUH! Marrying a wealthy man or wealthy women (lesbians for example) comes with a price. A price most people dont want to pay.
Anonymous
04/22/2022 12:27
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:I married a fund manager and he's in good shape and does not really have any of the issues people are complaining about. I guess he works a lot, but mostly from home. I work a lot, too. He does have extremely high expectations, and I feel them as his wife, and our kids definitely feel them, so that's something to consider if you'd prefer to coast through life a bit. OP, if you aren't married yet and you know this matters to you, then limit your dating pool.
NP here, I’m curious what you mean that your husband has extremely high expectations and that you and your kids feel them? In what way- looks, being achievers academically or career for you, athletically?
Anonymous
04/22/2022 07:44
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was rich, hot, and a great dad and spouse..than yeah, I might be drooling a bit!
Me too! But that combo is SO EXTREMELY RARE. Normally Big Law/C level etc = Big Ego and marital problems. I know too many women who stay married to cheating husbands for financial security. I'm so happy I have (and earn) my own money. Yes, my husband is rich... so am I. We are equals as is our power balance in the relationship. Have at me DCUM....
The bolded is what no one wants to discuss. TBH... when a woman marries a wealthy alpha man she should expect to get cheated on...
OP, take heed. This is another downside of being a woman who married a man who is financially successful:
you learn how many people secretly wish destruction on your whole life. Envy truly is the root of evil. Before DCUM, I knew that existed somewhat, but I had no idea how pervasive the sentiment was.
Anonymous
04/22/2022 06:43
Subject: How to not be jealous of women who married rich?
Anonymous wrote:OP, comparison is the thief of joy. It’s cliche but true. Life isn’t fair and you basically have to make the best of what you have.
I view it as a choice. I am an immigrant who came here penniless as a child. I can choose to compare myself to the wives of my husband’s old-money college buddies and be bitter that I’m not living in a 3 million dollar home without working or ever having to think about money. OR I can choose to be thankful for my own life, which is cushier than I ever hoped for growing up - a big house in a nice neighborhood and a salary that is higher than what my parents ever made, combined. Focusing on the former brings me nothing positive. Focusing on the latter makes me into a calmer, happier, more appreciative person.
Can you unfollow people on social media that trigger these negative thoughts?
Bless your beautiful soul.