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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do think the PP makes a good point about how wealthy men often expect a certain type of wife. This is part of why I don't envy most women with wealthy husbands. I would not do well with a man who had expectations that I always look a certain way. And I'm naturally thin, even after kids, and fairly attractive -- I just don't like having to look done or feel like there is pressure on me to look a certain way FOR my husband. Many wealthy men expect their wives to be a visual compliment to them at events and work gatherings. I would not enjoy that pressure. I want the freedom to wear something offbeat or more comfortable as I choose. I wouldn't want the pressure to play the part of the good corporate/BigLaw wife. There might be rich guys who would be okay with that, but I didn't go hunting for one.

Also, many of my friends who are married to wealthy men... their houses are perfect. Their kids go to private and are expected to perform at a high level. A lot of pressure to get into a selective private HS and college. These guys often want bragging rights, whether it's a gorgeous house in the right neighborhood or their child's soccer team winning a championship or their kid getting into Stanford or whatever. I do not live my life that way.

I'm an introvert with a strong independent streak. I love and support my husband but I also do my own thing. I want my kids to be happy and I don't even care if they go to college at all as long as they have a plan for themselves and are rational about their life choices. I went to law school but I didn't play that competitive game and opted out of the rat race for more independent, academic work (that is not remotely impressive in cocktail conversation). I kill all our houseplants and I started painting the living room 9 months ago and it's still not done. And my husband is fine with all of that, could not care less.

Call it [b]the soft bigotry of low expectations[/b], but I like my middle class lifestyle with my middle class husband. We joke about winning the lottery but really we're pretty happy with our life as it is.[/quote]

This comment is so refreshing. Thank you for *GETTING IT*. The point is being married to a wealthy man is not the same as being a married to your regular everyday middle class man. 
Marrying a wealthy successful man comes with a price. A price most women don't think about.

I also, appreciate you saying you like your middle class lifestyle with your middle class husband. Most woman want that tbh...

While most women fantasize about marrying a wealthy man. I do think most woman prefer a middle class man and lifestyle. [/quote]

That’s exactly what this is PP. Low expectations. I would hate this.[/quote]

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