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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, to put things in perspective, I went to university 500+ miles away from my home in the '80s and was only able to communicate with my parents by letter or a once-a-week long distance call (it was too expensive to call more often) from the common use phones in the dorm.  [b]Much easier now to stay connected -- perhaps too easy?[/b] [/quote]

Nope. I actually believe that what you’re describing is a major cause of mental illness among college students who have it. 
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PP here. By that I mean I think going 500+ miles away from college is a very bad idea for most kids, contributing to anxiety, rugged individualism and loneliness. Life is short and young adults should spend time with their families.[/quote]

Agree 100%

We don’t need our children developing lone wolf, rugged individualist type characteristics in their formative years.

College is a time of open mindedness and a chance at communal living and communal thinking. Sending your babies hundreds, or thousands, of miles away to fend for themselves only results in the creation of future conservatives.

Keep your babies close, let them form a tribe to depend on outside your family as well, but don’t subject them to harsh realities at age 18. It does society no good at all  :thumbdown:  [/quote]

I’d be willing to bet your 18 yr old “babies” will never be ready to function on their own. So you’re in luck. [/quote]

I’m the one who originally wrote that sending kids too far away causes “rugged individualism.” And I do believe that and don’t get the whole “don’t come home before thanksgiving thing” since most kids don’t go far away anyway.

But I think the “communal thinking” poster is a troll![/quote]

"Don't come home before thanksgiving" is a real thing.  If you want your kid to get settled at school, make friends, and learn to adjust to new situations.  It's hard to make friends if you are going home most weekends and everyone else remains on campus.  At college, weekends are where more of the socialization happens.  For some, the goal is to keep their kid near home forever, for others the goal is to have our kids flourish and grow into independent adults who make their own choices.  If a kid moves away, that's just an excuse for me to visit a new area several times per year  [/quote]

DP Agree.

Our DC is choosing between several schools and we are encouraging them not to go to the local state school, even though it's cheaper. DC is not a social butterfly, will hang out in room all weekend, and needs to experience living with others and hanging out and being forced to socialize. Not sure what we will do if they do choose the local option. We will have to set boundaries about when they can come home. Not every weekend.[/quote]

OMG.

I would never do this. If my DC wants to come home every weekend, there's probably a reason. I would never forbid them. Some kids need time to adjust to being away from home. Let them come home if they want to. My kids never wanted to, even though they were not too far away. If your kid wants to come home let them. They'll stay at school once they make friends, and the weekends at school are much more appealing than the boring weekends at home with their parents. [/quote]

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