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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’re finance and law. 1 toddler and 1 on the way. HHI is $1M+, with me individually $200k+. How we make it work:

Nanny 45 hours per week; monthly date nights. 
Cleaning 2x per month
Dry cleaning picked up/delivered to home
Groceries and household items delivered via Amazon Fresh/Subscribe and Save
Occasional meal delivery
I have really, really high executive functioning skills. This is critical. 
Max 2 kids; 3 kids and 2 big careers would be tough if not impossible.

And…I’m not working at the most competitive job that I could probably get. DH and I met in school and we were total ambitious go getters. I ended up pivoting in house and am senior enough that I set my own schedule (run a team, go in 1x per week, delegate, block of no meeting times so I can do random kid/life things). I really enjoy my job, and love my flexibility, though I know I could be doing something more high flying and higher paying. But our family would break if I worked 60 hours per week and traveled 25%. My ego wants that to some degree, but my practical mind knows it’s not possible. I’m also not really comfortable outsourcing much more of childcare. So I’ve chosen to bloom where I am planted![/quote]

Same here and spouse with ADHD so is often more trouble than help... 2 kids, less work travel now I guess, 2 activities per kid most times now that covid stuff done, no local family.

Housekeeper/nanny moved 2-7pm since both kids in school now and doing after school sports. works OK.

Do NOT underestimate the amount of communication and work involved "managing the staff."  Kids develop, schedules change, things break in the house and nannies often need "directions."  SO the executive functioning skills are paramount. And no nanny is going to ID a tick bite, or find your kid the best orthodontist, or do your kids parent/teacher conference, or plan a fantastic spring break for you, so stop with the "outsource everything!" fake mantra. Household admin continues forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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