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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not discount the potential issues being a stepmom and also dealing with someone’s ex. You are presenting guy number two as the stable option, but generally speaking, there are lots of complications when you’re dealing with someone who is divorced with kids.  Lots of things that people don’t realize until they are already in the marriage. Also, it sounds like he is 10 or so years older than you, which can present its own set of problems.[/quote]

And none of that means she should therefore choose Door Number One, The Ex. If she's so set against being a stepmom, she needs to split up with the current SO but going back to the ex sounds astoundingly wrong.

Better to be without either one, OP, than to see this as only a binary choice. You don't have to choose either man. Please dont' be a "I am nothing without a man" women.

I rather worry you feel you must pick one of these two, though, because you sound a little besotted with the idea of romance, which the ex is trying to show you with his letter and promises that he'll change. All the romance in the world will mean nothing a few years into a marriage where you were depending on your husband changing.

Never marry in the hope that your spouse is going to change, or with the belief that you can change him. [/quote]

Yup. That’s why she needs to choose guy #3

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