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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ll be honest, OP. As someone who is constantly trying to avoid the pitfalls of similar trade offs, what gets under my skin about your post is your confidence/certainty. It’s not your choices, per se, but how strong your belief is that this is a better deal for your kids and the rest of us who prioritize the early years are misguided. Do you never feel or express self-doubt about this? You’re always blissfully on the same page as your husband? Your sister may be responding to your lack of vulnerability here. It’s hard to be close to someone who has it all figured out—especially regarding something as complicated and emotional as parenthood [/quote]

This is so insightful and I think really nails it. Maybe really OP and her sister both have the same negative trait, which is a level of arrogance about their own choices and a tendency to judge others who don't do exactly what they do. They made different choices but have the same personality, which is to believe they are right and anyone who is different is wrong.

Until OP or her sisters is willing to admit that no has 100% figured out parenting, or life, and that each of them have made choices with both upsides and downsides, they are always going to be needlessly competitive about this. You have to give to get. OP's sister sounds rude as hell, but I don't know. If I had a sister who believed I was stupid for making the life choices I'd made, I also might make snide comments about being home with my kids in the evening or having more flexibility or whatever. It is really miserable to be close to someone who thinks you've messed up your life, that the good things about your life are not actually that good, and that the bad things about your life are all your fault. That sounds awful.[/quote]

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