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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's signaling to these girls that he has a family he has good relationship with and he's serious about dating them.
Except none of that is true. But I'm sure he's getting something out of it.[/quote]
This is the correct answer. It's a way of implying that he's very committed to and exclusive with these girls, while maintaining complete plausible deniability that "I never said that."

Because most normal people only introduce somewhat serious and exclusive partners to their extended family, especially in an intimate family dinner setting. [/quote]

I would ask him "How is your other girlfriend Larla?  It was so nice to meet her last time you stopped by.  And what about Larleen?  I think it is so great how you are all so comfortable and open being poly.  Love is love!"[/quote]

Oh he has been upset before when kids mention some girl. Most recently we had heard a funny story about a recent date on and he was afraid the kids would mention in front of the girl he is dating.

BIL went to both college and grad school in the area. When he was in school, he also used to bring his girlfriend around. Pretty sure they used to use our house as a love shack and free food, which I was also highly annoyed at back then. I told Dh he can’t have a code to our house and come and go when we are at work.

Now almost a decade later, he has his own place, earns a good living and still coming over. I am not his freakin mother.[/quote]

I think during the MIL visits you should expect him and plan accordingly.  The rest of the time, when he randomly shows up, greet them not-so-warmly, tell them you have some work to do upstairs and if they need anything they can ask DH.  Then ignore, ignore, ignore.  Make your DH suffer the full experience of hosting.  If your house is no fun for BIL and his friend, he'll stop doing this.[/quote]

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