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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a traumatic first birth and ended up with PTSD. I reached out for help on these boards right away because I knew something wasn’t right and was slammed, shamed, and made to feel like a selfish prima Donna. It made me feel crazy and horrible. It took me a full year to get help and by then I was suicidal. I was diagnosed with PTSD immediately by the psychiatrist.  People here have no idea how much they can hurt someone through the cloak of the internet.
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That’s why you talk to friends, family or a therapist.  Not strangers on the internet.[/quote]

Wow, aren’t you unkind. I’m the PP and I reached out because I needed help and my husband was worthless (totally traumatized by the birth and trying to move on) and my family didn’t understand what I had gone through and thought we should just be grateful for a happy baby. They could not relate. And I had never heart of postpartum PTSD and needed help understanding that I didn’t have PPD and help understanding that I had undergone trauma and needed a therapist with that expertise. People reach out for help when then are able to and how they are able to. Don’t assume everyone has a built in support network or defend indefensible behavior. [/quote]

+1,000,000

Also not for nothing, other PP, but OP is literally describing a situation in which a mom IS reaching out to friends and husband and the responses are essentially that she has poor coping skills and is responsible for her own depression and should get over it because she has a healthy baby and trays all that matters. That is the advice being given to one of the friends you think this new mom should reach out to.

PP directly above me, I am so sorry. I have had a lot of times when I really wanted to post here for the 30% of posts that would be supportive and did not because if a person is already struggling, knowingly exposing themselves to the 70% of responses that are pretty guaranteed to be rude, cruel, or tone deaf. [/quote]

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