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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dh makes a bit more but back at 500 and even 300 he has never asked me to work. He has only wanted me to work if I want to. This might be a different situation if Op's wife can rake in more than I could with my degree. That is the most important aspect IMO, what is there to gain/lose?

Having talked with peers I'd be doing well to get to 20k but likely would make less. I am glad he is open to private too but leaving it up to me. I am happy with public for now but glad he feels supportive of any change. With all these situations people think of their own salaries, stresses, lifestyle and extracurriculars. We can't really advise without knowing how much your kids do outside of school and DW's potential salary.[/quote]

How does this advance the discussion at all? What is the point?[/quote]

DP but it's useful in that it's a wife's perspective on what OP's wife might think about the matter of returning to work. And it raises important point like the reality of how much someone who has been a SAHM for a while can expect to make upon returning to work. It also demonstrates a more collaborative approach to the conversation about education, money, and a SAH spouse, where this PP and her DH where they respect one another's viewpoints and are open to each other's ideas.

It's relevant in that it describes practical concerns around OP's suggestion that he "make" his wife get a job, as well as illustrates an alternative approach based on communication and mutual respect as opposed to resentment and ultimatums.[/quote]

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