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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, sounds like you were the rude one. [/quote]

Nope, not after several nights of telling her all was well and that they would handle it, AND telling them even before the visit that all would be well and they would handle it. Nope, continuing to bother people when they have a situation totally in hand is not helpful, it's just trying to get attention and "be important." Get your validation elsewhere, and leave parents of babies alone.[/quote]

Why must you assume the worst of her?  Are you that hateful and sad with your life that you assume others are as bad as you?  OP, she likely just wants to be involved.  Rather than tell her you got it, ask her if she'd like to hold the baby after you're done feeding?  Or if she would mind changing the diaper while you go to the bathroom.  Wanting to be involved doesn't mean she's trying to be important - it may mean she loves the baby.[/quote]

NOPE, that just makes life harder for tired mom and dad! They have their routine, they've got it. Grandma can hold the baby during the day and can be helpful during the day. Parents have already said that they don't want "help" in the middle of the night. It was made clear several times. Anyone who wants to "help" parents of babies can start by listening to what the parents say will actually be helpful.[/quote]

Mom and dad need to figure out a routine where they BOTH aren't getting up together in the middle of the night to tend to 1 baby. [/quote]

All these ppl second-guessing OP's routine need to STFU.  Shocker: what worked for your kid/family may not work for others! 4 months is often a sleep regression.  MIL walking around upstairs saying "what's wrong? What's going on" is NOT helping - she's just rubbernecking and wants everyone to know she's awake (and any sleep book will say to keep things as dark and quiet as possible during night wakings).  Meanwhile, the sleep-deprived parents managing night wakings in an unfamiliar environment are supposed to be talking her through everything in the middle of the night? Hard no.

I am team OP all the way.[/quote]

Oh well, people have different opinions. DIL isn't a saint in her own description. But don't let your biases get in your way.[/quote]

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