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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does she have ADHD? Magical thinking is very common with that.

I would not discount what she says or gaslight her. Figure out what stings and find a way to step back and have a sense of humor. I would allow her to share what she thought you could have done differently. Then you could reflect back and share your side. "We tried to support your creative endeavors with x,y,z. I am hearing you say you wish we did a, b,c. We didn't do those because we needed to also spend money on other things and we wanted to make sure you could support yourself one day." Be careful about being defensive. If there is something you agree you could have done differently, agree with her. We all make mistakes. It's OK to admit them.

I would not write off the therapist yet. You don't know what the therapist is saying. All you know is the emoting from your daughter.

I would make it clear to her she has the freedom to pursue art on the side, but you cannot fund it. I do think gradually moving toward independent living will help her face reality. I would not take away therapy though because she needs emotional help as she transitions.

The cut ties statement from her is hystrionic and over the top. I might treat that like you do with a toddler saying I hate you. "I always love you and would be sad to cut ties, but I have to respect you are an adult and make your own choices. I would miss you, but I cannot force you to have a relationship you don't wish to have."

It's tough OP I know. It's just she is clearly struggling and if you do what some people say and cut off the therapy and tell her to get a life and move out and suck it up, I don't think it will go well. Gently help her out the door and make sure she has support and knows you love her even if she hates you.[/quote]

Thisbis sound advice [/quote]

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