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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]$1300/month sounds high given what I know about how paltry child support calculations are. My ex makes $5000K, I make $150K, and he pays $2K/month.[/quote]

You make a really good income.  So, do you spend $2500-3K on your child each month?  Doubtful.  You get a very good amount that should cover all expenses.[/quote]

It costs at least $1000/month in rent alone for a second bedroom. It’s $500/month minimum on food. It’s more than $500/month on activities. This does not include  clothing, medical care, social life, birthday or holiday gifts or parties, education, educational enrichment, camp, childcare/sitters, transportation, school supplies or fundraisers, utilities, travel, or anything else and he is not even a teenager yet. Hell I known people who spend $10K a year per child on sports alone. Seriously when someone makes $500K per year and has no child-related overhead and the other parent has 100% custody, why would you think that person should only spend $24K/year on said kid.[/quote]
So, basically, you want a premium lifestyle. He is not obligated to provide them.

$500 a month on activities? GTFOH.[/quote]

Why shouldn’t the kid have a premium lifestyle if their father is earning a premium salary and has no other obligations or dependents?[/quote]
Because that is not how child support works. Even if OP and her Ex were still married no child is owed a premium lifestyle. [/quote]
Correct
Parents have to provide basics for kids to get by.
Some father's prioritize country club to private school fees. Not illegal
Others only provide clothing from Walmart, some from designer stores. Lifestyle choice.
Some wealthy people have the fancy car, country club membership, expensive vacations and yacht and holiday house, but are very frugal when it comes to kids expenses, demand they work, do chores even when the household has a housekeeper
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OP’s question was not about what is legally required.
OP should not expect to have the same lifestyle as before and obviously doesn’t because the other parent is no longer there to help with housework, cooking, and driving kids around. 
But what about the kids?[/quote]
Kids lifestyle is also impacted by divorce. Mom is on her own and dad provides what is required by law. His support is for the kids expenses, which is something the custodial parent also pays for. 
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Mom has full custody and Dad has visits at best.  Dad really isn't a Dad beyond the child support check.  If you want shared expenses, then you share expenses.  You cannot expect child support and then Dad to pay for everything you demand on top of that.  Dad also needs his own housing, money and savings too.  If you want the kids to benefit from Dad's income more than child support, encourage the relationships.  Every other weekend is not a relationship.[/quote]

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