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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I don’t do anything for his family anymore. He’s irrational where they are concerned, it the only thing we ever fight about and his behavior is so ingrained that it will never change at this point. If they lived nearby we’d probably be divorced. So I no longer ask about them, I make no effort to remind him of birthdays/holidays, I don’t suggest times that would be good for visits, I don’t do any of the logistics of us visiting them or them visiting us, and I try, as much as feasible, to not be around when they come to visit and to schedule work trips when a visit to them is scheduled.

Otherwise, it’s just a nightmare for me. Nothing I do is good enough. Put out coffee in the morning? “Where is the bold roast, we don’t like breakfast blend.” Next visit, remember the preference, make bold roast, “We only like medium roast, why did you serve us bold?” That’s just a tiny example but it was every single thing, like they were purposely setting me up for failure and intentionally demanding something different. One time I asked them to write down all their preferences, then got all the requested brands/items for the next visit, and upon their arrival was informed they were now not eating carbs when the previous list included Raisin Bran, Fritos, lunch meats, etc. I can’t imagine going to someone’s house and telling them everything they offer me is wrong, from the color of the towels to the type of coffee to the car they own to the size of the tv they have. [/quote]

^^ I am similar.

DH is a big boy.  He can shop for gifts for his family if he wants to give them, call them etc....I'm not keeping track for him.

His mother and sister were over the top and had we stayed living near them, we would have divorced years ago.  Luckily right before we got pregnant, DH got a job offer across the country.  We moved 2,500 miles away.  
THey were nasty to me in the early days of our marriage and I don't have anything to do with them for 25 years. They are not welcome in my house. [/quote]

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