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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it’s something like a meal, [b]decide ahead of time who’s in charge[/b] of lunch.

Also, when you need uninterrupted time, you need to leave the house. I know that kind of sucks. But if you’re not good at ignoring the way your husband is, leaving is the best strategy. Even if you’re just sitting on a park bench reading or whatever. Go to the library or a coffee shop to work. Etc. [/quote]

We do this. Kids are off school on a random day? We decide who is doing what with them when (or if we're all taking the day off to do something). Weekends, same thing. We schedule everything out, including meals. I place the grocery order, but I don't come up with all the meals - the kids each pick one dinner and my husband and I divide the rest.

When they get home from school, we have a schedule each week that shows which parent is available when, and we schedule our work accordingly. If he has them after school, then they know not to bother me because I'm working, and vice versa. This is our first time going without a nanny but she moved and they are older so we're giving it a go, and luckily we both have flexible enough jobs to try this out (and we both now work from home).

I guess that then mostly solves the problem of who the kids go to when they need something - either both of us are lounging around and therefore either of us can help, or one of us is assigned to kid duty. I'm a Type A person, so I love a good schedule and while it does take some time for us to sit down and look at the upcoming week, it's worth it once the week starts. [/quote]

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