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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Better than him staying and escalating and both of you saying things you’ll later regret.[/quote]

That's the excuse of the silent treatment types.

Silent treatment is a form of abuse.

The real solution is for him to be able to stay and *not* say things he will regret.  To control himself.

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I disagree with this.  It really depends on the person.    There is a difference between needing time alone to process something (which is a self-care measure) and giving the silent treatment (which is solely about punishing the other person).   When I was in my early 20s my mother once made me sit for almost 2 hours talking about heavy emotional stuff that hurt so much.   I later told it it felt like emotional rape, and it did.   It was horrific.

If a person who needs time alone can maturely articulate that to a partner, in a calm way, and then regroup and come back later to work it out, I think that's great.  That's being respectful of their needs and their partner's needs.   Now, in the long term, it may mean that a couple's arguing style isn't very compatible, and OP will have to figure that out.  [/quote]

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