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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Well-educated" = financially well off. The same as when women say they want a man who is "ambitious".[/quote]

NP here.  I think this is a common misnomer. a.) "well educated" does not equate rich, at all.  I know guys who graduated from HYPSM, and their wives handle everything.  I know women who graduated from HYPSM, and they can multi task like their lives depend on it. Women are generally better at multitasking.

b.) I think women should educate themselves and look out for themselves.  Women who "need" this or that - whether it be an "educated" man (this week, next week it will be something else - the "white kitchen syndrome") and lacking in reasoning skills and general life skills - and simply do not know how to be happy. Apparently, this kind of woman thinks such a man "validates" them.  On top of that, such women have nothing to bring to the table except their insecurities and general ineptitude.

c.) One example - I was out for dinner recently with some HYPSM couples, and a non HYPSM wife chimed in - "doesn't so and so (HYPSM man) have patents (plural), and sell companies and have stocks/bonds and isn't he a millionaire?"  We all broke out laughing because we know the couple she was referring to, and the wife is the one with the degrees (and the high grades - the husband almost flunked out, more than once!).  There are no patents (none), no stocks and/or bonds (zilch), or payouts (zero).  In fact, the wife and wife's family is the one with money and successful businesses. If they divorced, the man she was referring to (apparently the woman asking sees him as some sort of means to an end, if not "perfect" LOL) would have nothing, quite literally. But, shallow people would not see this for what it really is, because they don't know better than to only think it is the man who brought something to the table. It doesn't occur to shallow women that another woman has something to offer (looks and/or money and/or brains/education and/or special background/s and/or interesting life/hobbies/intellectual interests- sometimes all of the above). Women sometimes criticize/gossip to their own detriment.

The funny part is, it seems (the woman who asked) thinks (the guy she asked about) is her "plan B" (or "C", or "D", depending how many times she has married by now - there are more women like that, sadly so). There are women who literally see nothing wrong with spending an inordinate number of nights hanging out in high end hotel bars for this reason. You don't believe it, until you see it. It is sad that some women reduce themselves to what they "think" a man is worth. It is more sad when they are dead wrong, and end up unhappy, yet again.  The old adage that "you can't buy happiness" rings true.

d.) What it comes down to, is that some women grew up poor, ashamed of who they are, and are deathly afraid of being poor - and maybe people finding out the truth.  So, sadly they cling onto fables of finding the rich guy - bonus points if that woman thinks he is "perfect" (which they do think, because they don't have the sense to know better).  In fact, he doesn't really exist.

There is a whole psychology behind this.  It boils down to well, let's just say, I would tell my sons to run - fast and very far away from a woman like this.

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I cannot get past a). It is so condescending to say that a woman who wants somebody who is well-educated is going to ignore a lack of good reasoning skills or generally life skills. And if you say that wanting to have things in common with your partner means you don’t know how to be happy, you need to learn more about how relationships work. Can two people with vastly different educational backgrounds make it work? Sure! Is it harder and something that somebody just might not want to have to work on! Probably! [/quote]

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