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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you; some of you are being so helpful.

We don’t know how we landed here. We suspect *some* special needs because our other child isn’t like this at all, and how can nature/nurture be so completely off? Our second son, just 9 months behind him, is so sweet, kind, empathetic…always has been. And DS1 has always been his way. One could argue he’s fallen into that role and can’t get out? I dunno.

DS just isn’t compliant or pleasant. Asking him to help with dinner would result in a fit “why do I always have to help!” Screaming.

We just have to bite the bullet and come down hard on him with boundaries and rules. He just pushes and pushes and wears us down so much. This is why we are where we are, I guess.[/quote]

Oh my god.  Please don’t blame “special needs” for your idiotic parenting. And stop wringing your hands about not knowing how you ended up here. Give him consequences for bad behavior, and also model for him what good behavior looks like. Give him the tools to act right.[/quote]

He does have anxiety and adhd. The “special needs” comes in because he doesn’t act appropriately when a consequence is given. It’s like he cannot handle it and completely loses control…he screams for hours once a consequence is given, even a small one. 
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