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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stability is boring. Why can't the Millennials handle stability in their relationships?[/quote]

OP here. You're clearly not reading the thread. Stability is what I want! The stability of what was displayed as the package offered when we met. Frequent uninhibited sex, an effort in appearance, in working out to look the best one can, in being well read and conversational, etc. That was what is always "marketed" during the dating phase but then suddenly a year later its like an evolution where "comfort" and "love" mean a lack of trying and effort. What's the point if we're not (all of us) getting a little better each and every day?[/quote]

This is unrealistic. The effort that any person makes when meeting a new significant other and getting to know him/her cannot be sustained for the rest of their life. It's not possible. Your attributing it to "marketing" is a little mean, I think, because it's not marketing, it's a normal human response to the excitement of a new, intriguing partner. Novelty and initial attraction inevitably fade (and it usually happens around the 3-year mark) but hopefully by then the relationship has deepened into a strong, long-term connection. You seem not able to handle that transition, which happens in all relationships. Why is that?

One solution is you get married at the 1-2 year mark, before the attraction fades. Then you find ways to sustain and build a spark within marriage.

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