Reply to Explain this weird MIL behavior

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Explain this weird MIL behavior"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]She is annoying about get-togethers, controlling about food, she blabs all about her health problems, doesn't really connect with the kids and has no hobbies/interests.

My question is, how does this situation make you feel, OP?

This thread made me think about my own IL issues, and I came up with an idea ... people generally think IL issues are about jealousy (the classic MIL can't let go of her son for example). But on the DIL side, i think it might be, unresolved feelings about your own parents.

Whether aware of it or not, ILs are like proxies for your own parents, so you will compare them, find them lacking perhaps, etc.

You noted that your own mom died. So maybe you are feeling aggrieved because this MIL is NOT YOUR MOM and you are offended by it, in your heart, because you miss your mom. So itis maybe easy to get bent out of shape by her faults. But her faults aren't THAT bad, it's that you are particularly disappointed by them, because she can't be your mom.

OK so I could be totally off base for you, and you are only worried about dinners, but it made sense for me and my MIL situation so I shared. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics