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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. [b]Husband also said we could stop drinking entirely if I wanted that. I am considering we try that for a period of time. Would you recommend that approach as opposed to moderation? For a few weeks? Can that help confirm that he does not have an alcohol dependency as he states? [/b]I am not convinced he is an alcoholic considering there are some days when he drinks less or not at all. It seems to be worse during periods of stress. He does not think it is a problem because it doesn’t control him. Thanks for the thoughts. [/quote]OP, sorry to say this, but this is a typical strategy of alcoholics.  Some folks like to prove they can stop at any time and do it for awhile but then come back to where they were before. They think they don't have a problem because they managed to stop for a period of time but they are only fooling themselves.[/quote]

On the other hand, sometimes non-alcoholics are drinking too much and need to change. One time, not long after college, I got black out drunk, got into a car, and wrecked. (Fortunately I was the only one hurt.) This is obviously hugely problematic behavior. I went to a court-ordered, 48 hour treatment program. It was pretty cookie-cutter. They insisted I was an alcoholic. I wasn't. I went 6 months without drinking anything. Then I started drinking again. This was 20 years ago and it hasn't been a problem. I drink a beer, maybe two, in a given evening. I get seriously drunk maybe once every two or three years.

I'm sure that, twenty years ago, if I described how I had been drinking and the car accident, everyone on here would insist that I was an alcoholic -- and for pretty good reason. But I just needed a serious wake up call to knock me out of college drinking patterns. I could control my drinking, but back then it just seemed more fun not to.

As for OP, I agree that drinking just a little is more proof of control than going cold turkey. And I think you probably want to set the goal in terms of months, not weeks. [/quote]

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