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[quote=Anonymous]DW (not the OP's) and the spender in the partnership.

I buy everything. My DH happily states that he buys nothing. But what that means is I buy everything for the entire house, him included - his work pants are wearing out, I get him to new ones (not right away, I wait until he expresses that they are wearing out and he should get new ones which is probably way past the point of being replaced). I buy all the grocery items, I cook so I decide what household appliances I need (and at our current income, which ones I want to splurge on). I do 70% of the kid activity sign ups and payments, make sure they have the right supplies, etc.

I don't mind, it's how we have divided labor. He has a lot of responsibilities for the family that I don't want. Mine just tend to involve spending our money and his do not.

It took him a long time to be able to spend any money on himself just because he wanted it and we could afford it and it would bring him joy but he does now so I do it a little less for him.

Together, we spend less than we can afford to, are saving tons of money, and are generally on the same page financially. That said, I wouldn't spend more than $1k at a time without at least telling him that I was and why, even knowing he'd be fine with it. It's not a frictionless arrangement but it is what works for us most of the time.

A note for OP, she's going to spend way too much on your first baby. Yes, you will end up with a themed nursery. It's fine. It happens to all of us - you get wrapped up in the best for your kid even if some of it ends up being a waste. You'll spend even more at 2am when that baby won't sleep.[/quote]

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