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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, was this on appliances or kitchenware? Honestly, $8K is pretty normal for appliances. A good double door fridge would cost $2500. [/quote]

He already said no. It was on dishes, silverware, cookware, blender.  Not really sure how you would blow through 8k on that.  Maybe she bought a sterling set.  [/quote]

If she bought stainless steel, she probably bought All Clad. That brand is super expensive and adds up. [/quote]

I have an all clad set.  It is was around $700.  Expensive yes, but not thousands of dollars.  Did she buy a huge copper set made in France?[/quote]

OP here. She bought everything from Crate & Barrel.

- New cookware that I think is Clad Ware or something for like $1500. She bought a roasting pan, bakeware set, and stainless steel spatulas and those other claw things from the same company. 
- All new food storage is Pyrex glass. Lots of them. 
- All new dishes, drinks, silverware, etc. 
- New blender, food processor, kitchen aid mixer, etc. 
- New wine glasses

Most brands are that clad ware, la creusest, and kitchen aid.

We didn’t have many of the things she bought because we never cooked. We ate out for almost meal or got something that was quick and easy. She has been taking cooking lessons online and has started cooking. She bought a bunch of things for the house that we didn’t have and that she felt she would need. [/quote]

Here’s what’s bothering me about your post, OP. Buying necessary household items is actually a chore. I spent the time and effort researching and buying a blender, set of pans, etc because they were needed by the household. Not needed by *me.* This spending is more like her buying paper towels and toilet paper than it is like her splurging on high-end jeans. If she’s the only one spending money on maintaining household needs, it just means you didn’t do your part in maintaining the needs of the household.

It does sound like she spent more than a more frugal person would have to outfit your home, but if you wanted to shop frugally for dishware you should have stepped up and handled it. [/quote]

+1.

I do nearly all of the spending in our house because I manage the household.  I buy food and clothes and furniture and sign kids up for activities and get the carpet cleaned and the piano tuned.  If you are unhappy with how much she is spending then you should have a conversation about it, but otherwise, just be glad that she is willing to take it on.  
I would be kind of resentful if DH referred to me as the “spender,” and himself as the “saver.”  [/quote]

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