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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I met my husband at 30, through online dating. He’s the kind of guy that probably would do well online dating ... 6’2, cute, humble, good job, athletic, well traveled + down to earth. I got lucky. I remember I panicked that year about turning 30 and the dating pool was horrible. Many seemed great from their profiles but had snarky or bitter personalities. Like others have said, open your mind up to dating sometime that doesn’t check every single box, in particular ones that have no bearing  on what your life will be like as a married couple like his height.[/quote]

Clearly the OP hasn’t had your luck online, at least so far. And you were seven years younger when you had such luck…

OP, I would keep doing the online thing but also try to put yourself in more situations in real life that could lead to new friendships and an expansion of your casual social circles. I met my husband at 38 through a new friend of a friend (she was and still is married at the time) who had recently moved to town and wanted to set me up with her cousin. I almost didn’t go out that evening because I was tired after a long day at work, but obviously that one night changed my life when I met my now husband through her.

“Putting yourself out there” is overused advice, but for a reason. I’d also recommend Lori Gottleib’s book about Mr. Good Enough. It has a terrible title, but the themes are directionally sound. It makes you think about what a lot of posters mentioned: figuring out what traits are truly important to you in a life partner and only focusing on those handful of traits. I read it at 35/36 years old and it really changed how I approached dating, both online and with anyone I met in person, for the better. [/quote]

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