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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]$50 is really too little, IMO. I grew up in a wealthy area in NY, and got bat miztvah'd in 1989. I think ONE friend gave me $72, two sisters gave me a gold bracelet, and everyone else gave $90 or $108. So to give $50 NOW, seems way too low. FYI, if your kid isn't close with the kid who invited them, they don't have to go (and thus, don't have to give a gift). [/quote] I could have written this. I was shocked to read $50 based on the same experience. Grew up on the upper east side and went to over 90 bar and bat mitzvahs in the mid-1990s. Our “go to” gift was a Tiffany’s bracelet - the chain link one with the tag you can get a name on. Can’t remember how much it was but it was around $100, I think. Just looked it up and it’s now $400. I’d say at least half of people would get something from Tiffany’s for girls. [/quote] I am a transplant from NY, although not the upper east side. You all are living in a wealth bubble and don't seem to realize it. No one around here spends that outrageously on birthday or bar mitzvahs for classmates. The DC area tends to be understated and not to flaunt wealth, even if they have it. It is considered by many to be a bit crass. The $50 range, even a bit less, is perfectly acceptable here. When I do birthdays I actually request that guests NOT give a lot, because honestly we don't need it, and I'd do the same for the bar mitzvah, although I'm thinking we may actually skip the whole giant party thing because honestly I just not religious enough to want to spend 10K on a kid party. [/quote]
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