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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If someone can take the time to find, purchase, wrap, and send a gift, the least I can do is write a note and stick it in an envelope to say "thanks".[/quote]

Not to mention the time it takes to log on to DCUM and complain about the 350 gifts your DC received.

You're entitled little twits who have no time for anyone but yourselves.

At least that's what the 350 people who sent your kid gifts are thinking right now, because you can't bring yourself to write a simple thank you note.[/quote]

Just like you can't bring yourself to be anything but a raging bitch, not to mention you can't bring yourself to actually read what I wrote.

Not only did I write a simple thank you note, I wrote 350 of them. I just didn't write them quickly enough to please the biddies like you in our lives who were all "oh, hi, it's Janice. Did Cindy receive our baby gift? We sent it almost four weeks ago and we never did get a thank you. I was a bit surprised she didn't bother to thank me." Meantime, I had a baby who screamed literally all day and night, slept only on me, and no family anywhere. We'd moved recently so I didn't really even have a friend to call up, but when my MIL shared a complaint with me and I offered that explanation, she suggested that I might call a friend or hire someone to come and sit with the baby for an afternoon so that I could finish the thank you notes. Oh yes, that's what new mothers, if they are actually willing to leave their baby that long, should do with the time they free up. Sit down and drill out thank you notes. I tried to write two or three a day, every day. I spent about 25 minutes on them on average, every day. (it's great for those of you who can spend 5 mins on them, that's not my super power). I wrote them in the order of receipt. My own grandmother, who knew our struggles with colic and the medical issues DS had going on early on, called me and asked about the status of the thank yous, telling that her church friends were "whispering about it." This was about 5 weeks PP. I told her I was writing them in order of receipt and she asked me if I could move her friends to the front, because they are "sticklers." I was tempted to drop those "sticklers" off of my thank you list altogether, but I decided against it in the end.

In the meantime, when I see the people I heard complained, I smile cooly, answer their greeting and move on as quickly as possible. I do not care if they think I'm an etiquette breaker. Wanna know another etiquette rule? It' is considered poor manners to embarrass someone about their poor manners. If someone takes your bread at lunch, for instance, you simply adjust rather than to call attention to their gaffe. Same goes for gifts. All the "experts" are sticklers on this rule, too. But I guess you biddies missed that one? Another rule of the experts? They counsel against retaliating by not giving gifts to people who don't thank you. But I'll actually agree that you should not give a gift. Personally, I would SO MUCH RATHER not get a gift from someone who doesn't really want to give it, so much as wants to check a box and make sure I check a box in return. How tedious the whole thing is.

So, for those without reading comprehension, I wrote the notes. I wrote personal and nice notes. I simply didn't write them fast enough. I'm sure nobody realized how many gifts I received. But isn't it also good manners to give people the benefit of the doubt? I'd never make a mental note of someone who didn't thank me fast enough. Gross that some of you are like that. [/quote]

BTW, if you had read, my thank you note problems were years ago. My kids are older now and I've got plenty of time to write thank you notes and I do, just like I did then. I was talking very specifically about the newborn period, which I personally believe should be exempted from the obligation, and at the least, people should understand when they're not prompt. And thanks for calling me a little twit. Your assumptions are obvious, but you're incorrect on all of them. [/quote]

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