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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a really idyllic childhood with wonderful parents and siblings.  I grew up in a household without fighting between the adults.   As kids we bickered like all normal kids do.

As an adult I discovered I didn’t know how to fight. Every argument with a significant other caused me so much stress and angst because I didn’t grow up in a household where those exchanges occurred and to me they were monumentally huge/negative events.  I think this was exacerbated because my partners did grow up in traumatic dysfunctional homes so they didn’t have the healthiest habits for disagreements and I had no significant experience with disagreements.[/quote]

Yep, this. My family didn't yell, didn't fight, really didn't argue.

When my now husband and I would have a disagreement, it felt like the end of the world to me. It's not that my family avoided it, it just didn't really happen.

My husband grew up with an asshole father and a weak mother so while he didn't want to be anything like his dad, it didn't stress him out if we argued.

We've worked through it and are very happy but that was hard for me to deal with. I wouldn't change my childhood, but we do now make a conscious effort to let our children see us handle any disagreements. We don't fight in front of them but we will let them know if we disagree and we discuss how to work through it. [/quote]

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